Throughout the three stages of the flirt pickup, the key is balance.
3 stages of flirting
1- The Signs
Read her body language to find out if she's interested in you. Coy or furtive glances by themselves, or especially accompanied by unconscious hair fiddling, are a green light. Make eye contact to let her know you're interested. Simply get caught looking at her for a second longer than you normally would, then smile as you look away to some neutral spot like your drink or one of your guy friends (not another woman—unless it's your Wing woman).
Up the ante slightly with your glances, but let neither the glances nor this whole process go on too long (got that, Jeff?). Strike while the iron is hot: approach her within three seconds(if she gives you a second glance, that's your invitation), no longer.
On to the other two stages of successful flirting..
2. Set The Tone
Think of flirting like playing. Remember when you were a kid and you used to"play fight"with your friends?
Flirting is very similar.
If you start talking to a woman and say,"Hi, you're very pretty. You probably have a boyfriend, right?"in a normal tone of voice, you're NOT flirting.
On the other hand, if you say,"Hi, I realize that you're probably shy because you get absolutely no attention from men…so I thought I'd come over here and pay a little attention to you…"it's OBVIOUS that you're setting a tone that's not serious.
You're using what I call"Cocky Funny."
Cocky Funny is a powerful,concentrated way of setting the tone. When it comes to how to flirt and create sexual tension, it's a very specific kind of humor.
When you know how to flirt in a Cocky Funny way, you tune into a certain frequency in a woman's mind that causes her to go into a very special kind of emotional state…the kind that drives her to want to get to know you better.
3. Communicate In A Way That Creates SEXUAL TENSION
Without Sexual Tension, you have NO CHANCE of taking things to the next level with a woman.
Period.
So here's an example of how to create it…
When you're in a bar of club, ask a waitress for something you know they don't have. When she says,"I'm sorry, we don't have that", project both confidence and indifference with your voice tone as you say…
"OK, this relationship isn't working out. I'm going to have to break up with you."
When you communicate like this, you're FLIRTING…you're TEASING…. and you're initiating a DIFFERENT KIND OF COMMUNICATION than what most men initiate. It gets a woman attention fast. It intrigues her in a very deep,.engaging way.
In other words, it creates SEXUAL TENSION.
And once the woman you're talking to is feeling sexual tension, THE GAME IS ON.
So say something like this in just about ANY situation…with ANY woman who's saying something that you don't like or agree with…and you'll see amazing results.
By the way, there are a LOT of ways as far as how to flirt with Cocky Funny that don't even require words.
For example, if a woman looks at you and raises an eyebrow, look back at her and do the same…only exaggerate it.
If a woman puts her hand on your arm, look down at it, then look up at her in a surprised way, then raise your eyebrows as if you just had a major"ah ha!"realization…then start smiling and nodding your head as if you just realized that she wants you.
This is a powerful combination because it's funny, and it exaggerates the meaning in her touching you.
It creates"tension", but in a good way. Sexually.
And that's what flirting is all about.
4. PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE
The key to how to flirt right is"getting a feel for it". You have to actually get out there and practice so you know how flirting works, and you learn how to control it.
But the sad truth is, most guys give up after they try a line or technique, and a woman responds negatively.
Instead of just realizing that they need more practice, most men take it personally and decide it means that they're a failure. But take my word for it…if you keep trying to learn how to flirt effectively, you WILL SIMPLY NOT BELIEVE how women will respond to you.
It'll feel like you've suddenly acquired some kind of"magic power."
Now, there are a MILLION ways to flirt…but you NEED TO START DOING IT CORRECTLY to open an easy, natural dialogue that creates sexual tension…and leads to ATTRACTION.
And if you DON'T learn how to create attraction, you'll just keep having boring,"normal"conversations with women that go nowhere
These further tips can help make you better at flirting with a woman
While to some guys being successful with women and all things to do with women might seem like quite a daunting task, it's actually ridiculously easy to do once you actually know what you're doing.
1. Be clean and hygienic. Seems simple but it's amazing how many guys don't take it seriously. You don't have to be hotter than the sun to get women, but even with the things below you won't be taken seriously if you smell or look like a dumpster. Wear fresh clothes, get a shower every night, use deodorant in the morning, brush your teeth, make sure your hair looks alright...etc etc. It seems simple but it makes a WORLD of difference when it comes to women...and some guys just don't seem to understand that.
2. Have lots and lots and LOTS of confidence. This DOES NOT mean brag about every single thing you do and act like you're the best person to ever grace the planet, that will get you absolutely nothing. Have faith in yourself, don't be a wimp when you're talking to women...Believe it or not, women can tell just by the way a guy looks, how he's standing and talking when he's trying to flirt with them if he's insecure and scared about what she's gonna think of him...and that's a huge turnoff for women. Girls want a strong man, not a sniveling wuss who barely has the guts to even talk to her...but if she sees the guy has a lot of confidence in himself, she sees that strong man in him and thus will be much more open to romantics and the like.
3. Start a conversation with her. It's funny because many guys have no idea how to talk to a girl even though it's probably the easiest thing in this whole article...
Don't walk straight up to her with your arms hanging at your sides saying "Hello, my name is ...". Despite what you might see on TV or in movies, it really doesn't work. There are a few reasons for this, the main ones being that it's extremely awkward and leaves little room for a conversation to actually start, and it also reeks of insecurity and inexperience, two things women don't want any of in guys...here's the good way to do it. Let's say she's leaning against the side of a wall texting or something. Just walk up calmly and lean back on the wall about three feet or so away from her. Don't pay any attention to her whatsoever..act like she isn't even there. She notices you're there, but she won't say anything because she's either waiting for YOU to say something or she just doesn't care that you're there. Either way, wait about 30 seconds then make an observation about something in the environment around you.
She'll do one of three things...one: she'll acknowledge you and the conversation will flow naturally and quickly. This is the preferable option. Two: She might say something along the lines of "Yeah, whatever." or something like that. And three: if she's a shy type she might act like she didn't even hear you (she did though.) For these last two scenarios utilize a powerful technique called "cocky-funny" which will be covered later. Throughout all of these scenarios, remain calm and collected and confident, 'cause if you come off as a wimp now they'll never look at you the same way again even if you do get into a relationship with them.
4. Body Language. By far the most powerful weapon you have in your romantic arsenal. Compared to this your conversation means absolutely nothing...this is what's gonna get her attracted to you, this is what's gonna make her want to go out with you, and this is what's gonna make her want you in her pants. Keep in mind this only covers scenario one from the previous step, you'll need cocky-funny as well for the last two. So you pointed out something in the environment, the girl answered back and now you two are talking. Congratulations! But sorry to say, you're never going to go anywhere with her romantically without body language...but that's okay because once you know what you're doing body language is easy. The goal is simple: communicate romantically with this girl without even saying a word about it. You may be thinking "huh???" but it's ridiculously easy.
The most important part of body language is eye contact (it also ties back in to the confidence factor, if you didn't notice). As you talk with this girl, gaze into her eyes literally the whole time. This does not mean stare at her like a creeper, that'll just scare her away, just hold your gaze into her gaze the whole time you two are talking. It might not seem like it, but it's actually extremely intimate under the surface, and combined with the other things involved in body language it'll work magic in getting her to fall for you.
So you're talking and staring deeply into each other's eyes...the intimacy has already begun, and she knows it. Now it's an instinctual thing...if she's smiling and tilting her head at an angle or something else like that (pretty much acting flirty) which obviously indicates she's attracted to you, it's time to step up the body language a notch...if she's not already flirting with you then she's waiting for you to move in and start flirting with her. So give her what she wants - as you're talking, move in closer and begin to touch her softly in different areas like her arms or her hands or her waist or something...make sure you maintain that eye contact with her because if you don't things might become awkward and that kills the whole thing. Maybe even wrap your arm around her, at this point she'd probably let you. As you're talking to her flash little smiles and drop hints that you like her and stuff like that, but DON'T let her directly know you like her...yet. So now you've cranked up the intimacy even higher by breaking the touch barrier and dropping hints that you like her....there's no way she isn't fired up now. Feel free to go in for a kiss , and you could probably get together with her that very moment after the kiss depending on the girl, or if you just want to get her number that's fine too...she might be a bit disappointed if all you get is her number though.
Cocky-Funny. If you're dealing with a girl who is resistant to having a conversation, this technique is essential if you really want to grab her attention and make her fall for you. So, here's how cocky-funny works: You've commented on something in the environment, attempting to get the girl into a conversation, but turns out she responds with something like "Yeah, whatever."
Cocky-Funny is basically an integration of two things that normally wouldn't be good at all by themselves: arrogance and stupid humor. If you're arrogant, she won't want anything to do with you, and if you just make stupid humor all the time she's gonna think you're just a clown and won't take you seriously...but, when you combine these two things together, the combination becomes something that'll draw the girl's attention to you like a magnet to metal. You've probably heard and seen things about nice guys not being good with women and jerks keeping any woman, well it's because the nice guys don't use cocky-funny and the jerks use it in a different kind of way, so basically it's a very strong technique that can make all the difference when you're trying to attract a girl.
Alright, so now that you know what cocky-funny is, here's how to use it: You have to take what the girl says (or doesn't say) and come up with a response that's somewhat arrogant and mean but also humorous and not to be taken in a mean way. The key part here is to keep a good balance between the two: if it's too arrogant, she'll think you're a jerk and if it's too funny she'll think you're an idiot. Also, you should use body language and such to let her know that you don't really mean what you say and you're just joking around, e.g. throw in a little smile as you lock eyes with her after you say the comment, that way she won't take it completely seriously and you won't come off as an asshole.
Example: if you've approached a girl and you comment on the weather or something and she says "Yeah, whatever" like a snob, come back with something like "Oh, I see, little miss special is too important to talk to me, they might as well just make her the queen or something, she's just so special". She'll probably look up at you as you're saying this, this is the chance to lock eyes with her and drop a little smile after you finish, she'll probably say something else, then you just repeat cocky-funny until you have a conversation going...it's a very simple thing to get down and works wonders. Once you get good at it you can change it to fit anything she says, even if she doesn't say anything ("Oh, you must be the quiet type, I've always thought they were kinda weird honestly"), the point being you have to balance arrogance with humor and hint at your joking-around intentions, and from there it's just practice.
Confidence is completely different than arrogance, never be arrogant, it's extremely unattractive.
Warnings
When romantically dealing with women there's always a chance to get slapped in the face so just keep that in mind.
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